“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.” -Rick Warren
Why is being straight considered the norm?
It is not considered the norm.
It is the norm.
If something is the norm or not says nothing about if it is better, worse, preferable, horrible, or anything else like that.
It is just something that is so statistically probable that it is the expected in a situation where one does not know the details beforehand.
The norm is to have ten fingers, but of course there are those with more or fewer. The norm is to worry about finances sometime, even though it would be nice to never have to. The norm is to try to cut your hair once in a while, but you do not have to. And so on. Norms can be great, and some norms can be downright silly. Some things are norms by expectation and hope, and some are norms by biology/physics. The term is kinda wide.
For why being straight is norm is a complex question, and I assume that it has lots of little parts, from procreation statistics to social points. If many individuals have straight sex then many new individuals are created and all biological life seems to really want the show to to on. *shrug*
I do some very normative things and some things that are very non-normative. Usually it is best not to focus on norms too much, and just be what you are and do whatever you do to be happy while helping others be as happy.
Some norms can be rather useful for you even if you do not fit them.
The problem is really NOT about your sexual orientation as it applies to you. The problem is expecting others who do not share that orientation to conform to your expectation of how they should think and act.
This is currently being played out in the “choose your gender” silliness currently being manifested in our society.
In an ironic way this has manifested itself as a problem for the “gay press”.
The gay press may have had a purpose in the 1970s and ‘80s. It even had a self-described purpose in the 1990s, (gay marriage).
But in our current society what remains of it is a pointless, shriveled and sad appendage. A demonstration of that unerring law about charities: which is that if a charity is set up to deal with a disease it will continue to operate even if that disease is cured.
Because people’s jobs and pension packages are at stake. Many of those involved will have no other competency, and nothing else to do.
In the same way the gay press has staggered on, mainly online, long after it should have shut up shop. It ekes out an existence, with hardly any readers, paying its contributors nothing or almost nothing, trying to whip up the gays over niche issues of trans rights, and maintaining a skeleton staff paid in pitiful stipends and free items sent to them for review.
Naturally they have become organs of the identity-politics movements: ridiculous, ill-thinking, ‘inter-sectional’ publications which, because the gay rights battle, (in the mind of the “mainline” gay community), is basically won, try to whip their readers up into a rage about political issues that have nothing to do with gays.”
You were either born with a penis or a vagina. You were either born as a man or a woman, there is no choice to make.
If you want to pretend you’re something you’re not that’s up to you. Self deception has become the norm. Just get used to lying to yourself and other’s your whole life. Just please stop trying to tell us that your fantasy is mainstream. Stop urinating on our leg and trying to convince us that it is raining.